Parsing the “Attachment Cycle”: The Fox
Terrier of Attachment Therapy
Jean Mercer
Practitioners of Attachment Therapy often
reference the development of attachment according to a pattern they call the “attachment
cycle”. This paper examines the possible sources of this concept, notes that the
“attachment cycle” is not congruent with current conventional views of
attachment but seems to be derived from a mixture of unconventional and older
conventional theories, and suggests that commonly observable aspects of early
development contradict the “attachment cycle”. The potential dangers of belief
in the posited “attachment cycle” are discussed.
According
to Steven Jay Gould, when Darwin was describing the “dawn horse” Eohippus he described it as the size of
a fox terrier. Of course, in his day, most people likely to read his work rode
to hounds and knew what a fox terrier (as opposed to a fox hound) was. They
knew what size Darwin meant. But, as time went on and fewer and fewer people
had the resources or the beliefs that would encourage fox hunting, fox terriers
became less common, and relatively few people knew how big they were and how
big Darwin meant that Eohippus was.
Authors discussing Eohippus
nevertheless copied Darwin and each other, and continued to compare the ancient
animal to a fox terrier, communicating little to their readers. The same thing
can and does happen as authors writing about
mental health issues copy each other--
and it happens most easily when it’s a diagram that’s copied.
When
an author provides a simple, decorative diagram that illustrates a claimed
connection between events, it’s hard for readers not to assume that the
existence of the diagram confirms the existence of the events and of
connections between them. Maslow’s all-too-famous hierarchy of needs
exemplifies this phenomenon—thousands of people can recognize and even
reproduce the pyramid diagram, even though they may have no clear idea of the
claims being made or the presence or absence of empirical support for them.
In
discussions of vernacular, unconventional psychological principles-- for example, the belief system behind
“Attachment Therapy” (Holding Therapy, Rage-reduction Therapy, Z-therapy, and
other names as well)—proponents often employ a diagram showing events in an
“attachment cycle”. This diagram can be seen in the works of Foster Cline and
of Vera Fahlberg, and currently at www.emkpress.com/pdffiles-BWattach.pdf,
at http://e-magazine.adoption.com/articles/379/what-is-attachment-disorder.php,
at www.scottsdalemomsblog.com/2012/01/26/the-attachment-cycle/,
and so on for pages of Google. Diagrams of the “attachment cycle” show repeated
incidents in which a baby feels a need, a caregiver responds appropriately, the
baby is gratified-- and after many
repetitions the baby becomes attached to the caregiver. A disturbed “attachment
cycle” is represented like this:
Baby has a need
(possibly
including smiles and social reinforcement)
\
/
\ /
Trust does not develop,
rage develops instead
Baby cries
\ /
\
/
Caregiver does not respond
For some authors, the
“attachment cycle” ends here. Meet the baby’s needs and the baby becomes
attached (defined here as developing trust)--
fail to meet them, and he or she does not become attached (defined here
as responding with rage). For Cline and some others, however, this diagram shows
only a “first year attachment cycle”. Attachment is not complete, they
say, until the child learns to accept
and indeed love the limitations and boundaries created by a powerful caregiver
in the course of a “second year attachment cycle”. We can consider the
first-year cycle by itself and then return to examine the notional second-year
cycle.
It’s
clear that these repeated sequences, posited by Cline and Fahlberg as part of a
first-year attachment cycle, do occur. Babies cry when they need something, and
they are either helped or not helped by their caregivers. Toddlers also certainly test boundaries, and are either
corrected or not corrected by their caregivers. Because babies cry when they
actually do need something, a baby who is frequently ignored or treated
inappropriately may not survive. In addition, to look forward to the second
year, a toddler whose boundary-testing is not responded to appropriately may be
injured or killed as a result of risk-taking--
these possibilities are plain. What’s not so clear is whether either of
these scenarios has anything to do with attachment in any direct manner-- yet Cline, Fahlberg, and various followers have
insisted that the demonstrably repeated sequences are the causes of
attachment.
Like
the Maslow diagram, this depiction of a “cycle” seems intended to operate as
its own proof. Many readers who see it
seem to be convinced that that where there’s a diagram, there’s reality. Cline
and his colleagues have made no effort to adduce data to support their claims,
but they have attributed some parts of the “cycle” idea to other authors. Fahlberg (1991), for
instance, references Rene’ Spitz’s book The first year of life (1965), but she also shows diagrams of a related
“arousal-relaxation cycle” whose source is unmentioned.
The “First-Year
Attachment Cycle”
Is Spitz’s Work the
Source of the “Attachment Cycle”?
What
are the actual sources of the “attachment cycle” idea? Fahlberg’s reference to
Spitz suggests that his work is a good place to begin the search. Like many
other authors, Spitz was interested in the long-term effects of the infant’s
repeated experiences with adequate or inadequate caregiving. As he pointed out
with respect to feeding, “the two parts of the experience, the hunger screaming
and the gratification which follows it, become linked in the child’s memory. …
This development should be understood in the terms of Ferenczi’s… propositions
on the stage of infantile omnipotence. Hunger screaming, followed by gratification,
forms the basis for the feeling of omnipotence, which according to Ferenczi is
an early stage of the sense of reality… In this achievement of enlisting the
mother’s help for his needs through screaming, the human being experiences for
the first time the post hoc ergo propter
hoc in connection with his own action” (Spitz, 1965, p.153). But Spitz
associated these sequences of experience with memory, with perception, and with
the understanding of causality. The word “attachment” did not appear in the index
of the book at all. Spitz’s work does not seem to be the source of the
“attachment cycle”.
How Does Erikson’s
Concept of Trust Relate to the “Attachment Cycle”?
What
about other repeated events or cycles as proposed by influential authors? Fahlberg,
Cline, and other authors occasionally refer to Erik Erikson’s concept of basic
trust (Erikson, 1950/1963). A sense of trust is thought to develop in the
course of repeated experiences of good care, but trust is not exactly the same
as attachment. Erikson pointed out the need for an appropriate balance of trust
and mistrust, but conventional attachment theory emphasizes the advantages of
secure attachment over other attachment statuses, both with respect to later
social relationships and with respect to support for childhood exploration and
learning. Erikson speaks of a life cycle, of course, but he does not refer to a
cycle of repeated experiences when he says this-- instead, the life cycle consists of a number
of qualitatively different stages of social and emotional life, occurring in a
predictable order.
A Behavioristic
Approach
Neither
Cline nor Fahlberg gives specific mention of the possibility that operant
conditioning could play a role in attachment. To think along these lines
involves examining the possible process of reinforcement for attentiveness to
the caregiver-- and, in addition, for
the caregiver’s attentiveness to the baby. J.L. Gewirtz (1969) proposed a
theory of mutual effects of parent and child on each other, with social
reinforcement for the child from that care and affectionate attention of the
adult, and for the adult from the pleasure shown by the infant. In a series of
systematic observations of mothers and babies (a strategy all too rare among
theorists addressing this topic), Gewirtz was able to show mutual reinforcement
and gradual change of mother’s and child’s behavior toward each other. In fact,
the “first-year attachment cycle” is quite parallel to Gewirtz’s suggestion, as
both involve spontaneous behavior related to infant needs, adult responses, and
ensuing learning. However, like all operant conditioning approaches, Gewirtz’s
theory would allow for attachment
behavior to be maintained after it is once established, even though the adult
response became less and less frequent; the “attachment cycle” theory suggests
instead that failure to respond produces rage and interferes with the
development of emotional attachment.
Can the “Attachment
Cycle” Be Recognized Under Some Other Name?
Fahlberg
herself provides an additional diagram
that may provide a clue to the sources of the “attachment cycle”. This shows
the “arousal-relaxation cycle” mentioned earlier. It involves arousal of energy
and attention by a physical need, a reaction to that need (like crying),
followed by either appropriate care and subsequent relaxation when the need is
gratified or by continued distress and a failure to learn that caregivers will
help. This cycle resembles, in name and otherwise, Wilhelm Reich’s “four-beat”
motivational cycle. Reich ( 1980; originally published 1945) posited that in
all motivation there is some form of mechanical tension, followed by an
increased electrical charge, an electrical discharge, and mechanical
relaxation. This cycle, Reich thought, had a biological foundation and could be
seen in events ranging from orgasm to mitosis.
Reich, who died in prison after conviction for selling fraudulent
medical devices, believed that transfer
of an unknown energy called “orgone” was at work in all these phenomena. I
would suggest that Reich’s motivational cycle was the source of the “ first-year
attachment cycle” presented by Fahlberg and by Cline, as well as by many
imitators (e.g., Golding, 2008 ).
Neither
Fahlberg nor Cline attributed the arousal-relaxation cycle or the “attachment
cycle” they derived from it to Reich. This is not surprising, because authors
dependent on unconventional beliefs often fail to cite their sources. It’s
notable, though, that Robert Zaslow, Cline’s mentor (and perhaps Fahlberg’s
also?) frequently referred to Reich’s theories as sources (Zaslow & Menta,
1975) and proposed a “soul cycle” that is comparable. Because the “attachment
cycle” is not to be found in any other discussions of early emotional
development, it may well be that this “fox terrier” has been brought back again
and again without sourcing, to the point that few readers know what it is or
where it came from.
The
“Second-Year Attachment Cycle”
Fahlberg
had little or nothing to say about a “second-year attachment cycle”, but Cline
( 1992) emphasized the importance of this
period, during which, he claimed, caregiver limit-setting was essential to the
further development of attachment. He backed up this statement by a reference
to Bowlby’s remark that caregivers who become attachment figures are usually
stronger and more authoritative than the children, an idea that Cline tweaked
into the claim that the adult’s strength and power are actually the causes of
aspects of attachment.
It’s
readily observable that parents all over the world do set limits on their young
children’s actions, usually starting at about the end of the first year, when
expert crawling and the beginning of independent walking make “mischief” more
possible. Toddlers are pressed to become toilet-trained, to use spoken words
rather than screaming or grabbing for what they want, and to stay away from
dangerous or breakable things. There may be poor outcomes of behavioral
development both for children who receive little limit-setting and for those
subjected to many rules and much punishment for infractions. Careful guidance
during the toddler period helps establish self-regulation and self-control.
Does
limit-setting during this period have anything to do with attachment?
Evaluations of attachment like the Strange Situation (Ainsworth, Blehar,
Waters, & Wall, 1978) focus on the beginning of the toddler period at about
12 months of age, before much limit-setting is usually in place. This suggests
that attachment in Bowlby’s sense is already established before the second year
is well underway. Bowlby himself referred to this period of development as one
in which parent-child relationships began to modulate from the intensity of
earlier stranger and separation anxiety to include negotiation and compromise
between the parties-- a situation that
seems to contradict Cline’s claim.
Cline,
Fahlberg, and others have also appealed to the basic trust/ basic mistrust
concept proposed by Erikson as the important developmental issue of the first
year of life. But what does Erikson suggest about the second year? He proposed
that the second year or so of life involves a new focus on a sense of autonomy,
or confidence in one’s own decision-making about how to do things, as opposed
to a sense of shame and doubt that emphasizes other people’s opinions and
worth. Recognizing that toddlers need to be socialized and learn to follow
family rules, Erikson nevertheless suggested that the task of socialization can
be done through consistent gentle guidance, helping the individual to have
confidence in his ability to “do things right”, or as an alternative can
overwhelm the toddler’s abilities and leave a readiness to feel himself in the
wrong. Cline’s stress on the power and authority of the caregiver would seem to
work against a sense of autonomy, which Erikson argued children needed to
develop even though adults are, realistically, stronger and more knowledgeable
than toddlers are.
Like
other object-relations theorists, Spitz considered frustration to be a factor
in the infant’s progress toward understanding reality. Limit-setting, even of
the mildest form, is frustrating to young children-- so does this mean that Spitz’s views support
the Cline “second-year attachment cycle” belief? No, because (again like other
object-relations theorists), Spitz believed that frustration played an
important role in development during the first year, when it would not often be
associated with limit-setting.
There
seems to be no support from theorists of personality development for the idea
that limit-setting in the toddler period
contributes to the growth of attachment per
se, although it is clear that
experiences of limit-setting influence other aspects of personality and
behavior. Bowlby (1944) considered that some juvenile delinquents were
influenced by poor attachment histories, but did not connect obedience specifically
with attachment. Why, then, did Cline attempt a rapprochement between limit-setting and attachment? He has not
explained this, but we can speculate that the goal is to complete Cline’s
posited association between attachment and obedience. Cline and various
colleagues have claimed repeatedly that problems of attachment are indicated by
the child’s disobedience and undesirable behavior, and that treatment by means
of Attachment Therapy will make the
child “respectful, responsible, and fun to be around” and ensure that he or she
does things “Mom and Dad’s way”. Cline’s commercial parent-education program,
“Love & Logic”, is primarily concerned with obedience and compliance with
adult wishes. The concern with obedience, combined with the assumption that all
behavioral problems ultimately result from attachment issues, appears to have
brought compliance under the attachment umbrella and thus created the
“second-year attachment cycle” belief.
How Can We Know What
Causes Attachment?
Attachment
behavior is readily observed, but attachment itself (as an internal state and
motivating factor) must be inferred. As a result, no one can see attachment
happening—although Gewirtz (1969) reported what appears to be a relevant set of
processes. Until attachment has happened and attachment behavior is present, we
can only guess at the internal process. This means that the problem of
associating later attachment with one or more causal factors is a serious one.
Various
causes of attachment have been suggested, some more and some less likely.
Authors like Nancy Verrier ( 1993) propose that babies are already emotionally
attached to their mothers at birth, but infants’ behavior does not support this
view. Sigmund Freud attributed attachment to the experience of being fed by a
particular person. John Bowlby emphasized the effect of pleasurable social and
emotional interaction with a caregiver, and proposed that infants in the second
year of life are biologically primed to learn a connection with a familiar
adult. As has been noted already, Cline
and other Attachment Therapists hold that repeated experiences of satisfied
needs create attachment to the adult who provided the satisfaction.
Almost
all attachment phenomena share a particular problem that stands in the way of
accurate analysis. This is the fact that most often, the person (or people) who
plays with and shows affection to a baby is the same person (or people) who
feeds, cleans, rocks, and comforts that child.
The confounding of these factors means that in the ordinary course of
events we are not going to be able to separate the effects of feeding, of
repeated satisfying cycles, or of social interaction.
Nevertheless,
some observations do allow us to think about causes of attachment. For example,
in many families, one parent is much more involved than the other in infant
care. We would expect that parent to be the only important attachment figure,
if the “first-year attachment cycle” applies; yet we see babies display great
interest in a parent who does little physical care but who when present is
playful and socially engaging. Sadly, we also see that children form
attachments to caregivers who are neglectful and even abusive, and grieve when
separated from the adults, suggesting that satisfying care is not very
important to attachment, or that if it is important, very little of it is
required to do the job. Finally, reports on the traditional kibbutz child-rearing methods (see
Bettelheim,1969) suggest that infants cared for with little interaction with
adults, but physically healthy, become engaged with and attached to nearby
“crib-mates” and are distressed if those babies are separated from them for
some reason; other infants cannot have participated in feeding or care, but may
have been either socially interactive or simply familiar in the sense that they
were almost always there. These observations imply that repeated experiences of
the “attachment cycle” are not actually causes of attachment.
Several
other developmental phenomena appear to argue against the “attachment cycle” as
an explanation of emotional attachment. The first of these is the prefiguring of attachment behavior by a
period of infant “wariness”, in which the 6- or 7-month-old, who used to be
highly sociable, begins to regard new people with a serious air and warms up
slowly to those who behave pleasantly and engagingly. At about the same time,
many babies begin to show fear of sounds and events that are familiar but
perhaps startling, like the sound of the garbage truck or a vacuum cleaner
being turned on. This change occurs before and predicts the obviously
attachment-related behaviors of stranger and separation anxiety, but it is
difficult to see how a gradual development by way of a repeated “attachment
cycle” could be connected with the development of fearfulness and its mirror
image, a strong preference for the familiar.
A
second relevant event is the often dramatic sudden emergence of attachment
behaviors at about 8 to 12 months of age. This developmental milestone would
seem to indicate a reorganization of behavior and emotion of the kind posited
by dynamic systems theory. In Bowlby’s attachment theory, the abrupt change
(sometimes evident over a day or two) involves a combination of maturation and
of experience rather than repeated experience alone. Simple repetition and
reinforcement might be expected to show a conventional learning curve, but not
the sudden increase in a behavior’s frequency shown in observations of infant
and toddler behavior.
An
additional phenomenon that appears incongruent with the “attachment cycle”
theory is that of transitional objects. The toddler’s attachment to objects
such as “blankies” and teddy bears has been described by Winnicott (1953) and
is familiar to anyone who has cared for very young human beings. The display of
attachment to the transitional object is parallel to attachment to caregivers,
and is notably not a substitute for attachment to a familiar person. The
toddler who is devoted to a transitional object wants the specific object as
well as the familiar caregiver and may not be able to be calmed by the
caregiver alone. Yet the transitional object cannot have participated in an
“attachment cycle”, can provide little in the way of need satisfaction other than
a sense of familiarity, and certainly does not have as many ways of satisfying
needs as a human caregiver can provide. In addition, transitional objects do
not appear to function until after attachment to caregivers begins to be
displayed, and although the object may have been offered to the baby prior to
attachment, it has usually been one of many, all providing equal experience,
but only one eventually being selected as the needed blanket or bear. The
transitional object becomes important only after it has become familiar and the
baby has reached the necessary maturational stage, and the same may well be
true of the human attachment figure.
Finally,
the toddler characteristic of neophobia may be relevant to behaviors we
consider attachment-related. Neophobia, the young child’s aversion to
unfamiliar foods, objects, and situations, can be considered as the mirror
image of the child’s intense preferences for familiar people and places as well
as for a specific transitional object. The child’s fear of strangers and of
separation can also be classed as forms of neophobia. The “attachment cycle”
theory would seem to imply that rejection of a person depends on experience of
that person’s failure to satisfy signaled needs, just as it suggests that
attachment/preference results from experiences of satisfaction mediated by an
adult. Yet unfamiliar foods, places, and people have by definition had no
opportunity either to satisfy or to fail to satisfy infant needs. Examining
attachment behavior in the context of other age-related behavior in this way
leads to the conclusion that an “attachment cycle” would have to be congruent
with several aspects of infant and toddler development in order to be a
reasonable explanation of attachment--
but it is not.
Is It a Problem to Assume There is an “Attachment
Cycle”?
Does
it matter whether people think there is a “first-year attachment cycle”, with
or without an added second-year cycle? In some ways, no, it does not
matter-- and the belief may even have a
positive outcome. If parents are concerned about attachment as an important
aspect of development, and if they believe that they can foster attachment by
sensitive, responsive treatment of their infant, those beliefs are likely to
produce excellent child care and good development. It’s a much better situation
than if, say, someone advised parents to whip an infant who refused food (see
Pearl & Pearl, 1994).
In
other ways, though, the belief in the “attachment cycle” can be quite harmful.
One of the associated problems is the assumption fostered by Attachment
Therapists that child disobedience indicates a failure of attachment, rather
than a variety of other causes, many of which involve poor parenting. A second,
and even more potentially harmful, belief is that both first and second-year
“attachment cycles” can be recapitulated as treatment for older children. Acting
out of this assumption involves efforts to display adult power and authority as
well as arbitrary presentation of sweets, hugs, and eye contact as means of
creating attachment (Thomas, 2000). The
second belief is based on the assumption that it is possible, by re-enacting
some common early childhood experiences, to cause individuals to “regress” and
resume the characteristics of their early lives, then to cause them to develop
back to their present chronological age’s characteristics and to undergo
experiences that will correct whatever problems had initially occurred. These
principles and practices are without
empirical support and are potentially harmful, with a record of
demonstrated child deaths and injuries (Mercer, Sarner, & Rosa,2003).
Conclusions
The
“attachment cycle” theory proposed by Fahlberg, Cline, and other authors is derived
from a salmagundi of other theories, in most cases uncited by authors who have
discussed the concept. The theory, as repeatedly diagrammed by advocates of
Attachment Therapy, is incongruent with Bowlby’s attachment theory and only
partially congruent with some other suggestions about attachment. In addition,
it fails to predict some easily observable phenomena of late infancy and the
toddler period whose association with attachment is evident. Like Darwin’s fox
terrier, the “attachment cycle” material appears to have been repeated
unquestioningly by authors and Internet sites who have accepted it because they
have seen it before-- a sort of
“attachment cycle cycle”. This repetition, and the harmful implications of the
idea for parents and practitioners, are the only reasons for a serious analysis
of the “attachment cycle” like the one given here. Were it not for the
potential harm connected with the belief system, there would be no point in
examining it, as it is not and never has been a part of any conventional
approach to the understanding of attachment.
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